When was the last time you took a break? I'm not referring to a day off work or a quick pause between the hectic parts of your day. I mean a break that's entirely for you—time to let go of responsibilities, unwind, and recharge.

If you think, “I don’t really get breaks,” you're not alone. I was recently asked that same question. My initial reaction was to ironically chuckle and say, "I don't." Reflecting on my responsibilities, especially with my kids, work, and relationship, I realized how much of my schedule is consumed by what I consider "productive" activities. My dedicated “me” time mostly consists of training for an ultramarathon – although mentally uplifting, it is not the most recharging.

I thought about the significance of recharge time. I know it's crucial – but carving out this time sometimes feels impossible.

The other day, I rode a bike with my daughter while my son was at ball practice.  As we rode, my mind dwelled on everything I had to do that day. I was trying to be present for her, but I couldn’t help thinking about everything else on the go. “What time do I have to pick up my son? What am I making for dinner? What else do I have to do for school registrations?”

When we arrived at the playground, I realized I wasn’t being there for my daughter. I was physically present and talking to her, but my mind was otherwise occupied. I wasn’t being a good father, and I needed to change the script in my mind. I could have continued dwelling on my “to-do” list, but I knew I wasn’t doing myself any favors or being fully present for her.

As she played on the equipment, I took a few moments to myself and sat down on the grass in the sun. I permitted myself to park my stressors for a few minutes and just appreciate what I have. That pause made me feel more connected, present, and grateful. I could appreciate the moment, which made me more engaged with my daughter. What began as another task on my to-do list transformed into a refreshing, joyful moment with her.

It later dawned on me that I had viewed many of my responsibilities as burdens rather than opportunities. I realized these moments don't necessarily need to be something I "have to do" but rather something I "get to experience."

I learned that even within my regular activities, I can find chances to recharge if I consciously choose to. Instead of taking a victim mindset and thinking, “Poor me, I never have time for myself,” I can take ownership and realize the opportunities are there for the taking.

If you feel on the verge of burnout and think you can't possibly dedicate any time to yourself, consider this: do you really have no time for yourself, or are you falling into the thinking trap that I was stuck in?

I’m hoping this article inspires you to take a moment to reflect and appreciate the times in your day when you can be fully present and recharge a little. It’s not always about finding more time – but doing more with your time.